How does one truely plan for the birth of a second child? I am a planner, a scheduler and I do not like being left to the unknowns. It causes me great anxiety and fear.
I lately have found myself worried about my daughter, She will be 21 months when B arrives and A has only really known me, daddy, and a few close friends of mine. She is not use to being with people without me and I think that sends both of us into a separation anxiety filled attitude. When I have left her she cries for me and it breaks my heart often times I leave when shes napping so she wakes up to daddy and isn't as bad of a freak out. It has gotten worst as I've gotten more pregnant.
The thought of leaving A with someone she barely knows is terrifying to me. What if they abuse her? What if they neglect he? How will she feel being away from us? I cannot get over these fears it took me a lot to return to work after A was born and let someone I didn't know watch her. But this situation is different. I could in fact be away more than 1 day depending on labor, delivery and release from the hospital and A has never been away from me for more than 1 overnight with her Nanny in Colorado. I am trying to find faith that it will work out but at the same time all of this rushes through my head. Someone who barely knows her doesn't know her routine, doesn't know her behaviors, and I really think she'll feel abandoned but I have no choice with no local family and with a 2nd baby you just never know when they are going to come. Will she come way before her due date, will she come after it. We have no clue and I think that's what drives me the most insane!
I have decided to try and get a few people around her to socialize her, and may even interview a few that may come to the house and watch her need be. But I am still so anxious over it all. So if you read this blog and have any pointers, tips, tricks or trades you want to share for how to handle this fear, this anxiety or situation feel free to post a comment to me!
My plan for the 2nd baby is to get the birth plan done soon either before Colorado or After I return from my vacation. To have our bags started for all 3 of us and then to just wait and see what happens. Obviously I have no control but what I can plan for I will plan for! I don't know who she'll go with whether it will be Jeremy's coworkers wife, whether it be a friend of ours that I've hung out with a few times, or a hired person, All I know is I continue to seek peace in this matter and hope that she understands when the time does come We are coming back and we do love her stinky butt.
How did you plan for your 2nd baby? What steps did you take for the care of your other child? How did you make a smooth transition at home?
Tuesday, August 18, 2015
Monday, August 17, 2015
Post Pregnancy/Breast Feeding Plan
I wanted to take a moment and share my before and after baby diet. I tend to eat too many carbs during pregnancy to even want to admit it. So Here is what my typical diet will look like after the baby is born and I get back into my Gastric Bypass Weight Loss Roots!
Water: 64oz minimum! This is a must breastfeeding especially! Dehydration is one of the most common causes of loss in supply!
Breakfast:
Oatmeal I add in butter (Ireland Grass fed) with a 1/4tsp of honey and cinnamon.
or a protein shake or smoothie with spinach
or Spinach, cheese omelet
Snack:
Almonds (Raw or Salted) and String Cheese
Lunch:
Veggie with hummus or plain
Cucumber sliced with cream cheese and lunch meat
or A Cheese and meat roll up and cottage cheese
or a mixed green Salad with hard boiled eggs and shredded cheese
Snack:
Protein Shake or Smoothie whatever extras I have from breakfast, If I didnt make one for breakfast, I will make whatever sounds good.
Dinner:
Chicken Baked or Grilled
Carb- Small amount for me of brown rice or quinoa
Spinach or mixed green salad
1/2 Avocado
Snack:
String cheese and Almonds
or Cottage cheese
If i want something sweet we do enjoy dark chocolate occasionally or dried cranberries :)
If we go out I often will order a chicken sandwich or if we go to a BBQ place I will get pulled pork and just not eat the bread. I use to love Texas Roadhouse Steak Salad with a Raspberry Vinaigrette but that is no where to be found out here yet :(.
I do follow this diet for my snacks currently but have been avoiding protein shakes and instead trying to eat my proteins. As well as I currently consume carbs like crazy.
If you have any questions feel free to ask! :)
Protein is your focus!!
Krista XO
Water: 64oz minimum! This is a must breastfeeding especially! Dehydration is one of the most common causes of loss in supply!
Breakfast:
Oatmeal I add in butter (Ireland Grass fed) with a 1/4tsp of honey and cinnamon.
or a protein shake or smoothie with spinach
or Spinach, cheese omelet
Snack:
Almonds (Raw or Salted) and String Cheese
Lunch:
Veggie with hummus or plain
Cucumber sliced with cream cheese and lunch meat
or A Cheese and meat roll up and cottage cheese
or a mixed green Salad with hard boiled eggs and shredded cheese
Snack:
Protein Shake or Smoothie whatever extras I have from breakfast, If I didnt make one for breakfast, I will make whatever sounds good.
Dinner:
Chicken Baked or Grilled
Carb- Small amount for me of brown rice or quinoa
Spinach or mixed green salad
1/2 Avocado
Snack:
String cheese and Almonds
or Cottage cheese
If i want something sweet we do enjoy dark chocolate occasionally or dried cranberries :)
If we go out I often will order a chicken sandwich or if we go to a BBQ place I will get pulled pork and just not eat the bread. I use to love Texas Roadhouse Steak Salad with a Raspberry Vinaigrette but that is no where to be found out here yet :(.
I do follow this diet for my snacks currently but have been avoiding protein shakes and instead trying to eat my proteins. As well as I currently consume carbs like crazy.
If you have any questions feel free to ask! :)
Protein is your focus!!
Krista XO
26 Weeks and Counting! Pregnant WITH WLS
What a fun couple of weeks its been, with appointments for catching up for prenatal care that we needed done, to preparing for a trip to Colorado, to getting Jeremy taken care of for work. I sometimes feel as if I am busier as a stay at home mom and wife than as an employee to a large company. Don't get me wrong I am in no means complaining, but some days I feel as if I never stop!
We were able to get our anatomy scan done and A behaved so well alone with me since Jeremy was at work. It is in fact a second baby girl! We are excited and nervous all at the same time! And I am in my 2 weeks of doing my blood sugar finger pricks for my gestational diabetes, OH Boy!
As a gastric bypass patient we are advocates for our own care. I have done enough research and know how I respond to increased amount of sugars in 1 sitting in a short period of time I would end up hospitalized. So rather than having to do the glucose orange drink I am doing 2 weeks of 4 finger pricks a day. Or another alternative some doctors chose to use is to pull your a1c1 every 3 months from the start of your pregnancy. Let's just say I hate needles and this process and its stressing me out. I am terrified of the results, I am worried for of course B's health as well as she could end up with Diabetes later in life I have them during pregnancy and a week before all this we finally agreed to revamp our diets and get onto a clean eating for after she comes making shopping quicker, and easier for either parent to do!
My 26 week appointment to learn gestational diabetes involved a nutrition course and sadly all that was recommended to me to eat and how much was recommended to eat would never and could never fit in my tummy. And the scale climbed to 190lbs. I often have this mental mind game and battle because of the scale climbing. So at 27 weeks I am 190lbs and that puts me at a total weight gain for the pregnancy so far as 11lbs. I am hoping to stay under 25lbs as I did with A but we will see. Two nights ago I began doing 10 squats a night, 10 pelvic tilts and now I've added in 30 minutes of walking a night tonight, well it actually ended up being 15 minutes because it was 102 degrees. But I went .69 miles.
What the next week entails in our home for us is preparing for Aspen and I to fly to Colorado to visit some friends, attend a memorial service for my best friends mom and to enjoy some time away from the house. By time I return I'll be 30 weeks. So between gathering plane toys for Aspen, planning meals and shopping trips for September, and making sure all is done around the house it has been crazy. I am ready for the break, but sadly I do start my last 2 pre-reqs for nursing school on August 31st so my break will still involve being a Mommy and doing homework for Chemistry and A&P 2. But I know all of this chaos is worth it in the end!
See you again soon!
Krista xo
We were able to get our anatomy scan done and A behaved so well alone with me since Jeremy was at work. It is in fact a second baby girl! We are excited and nervous all at the same time! And I am in my 2 weeks of doing my blood sugar finger pricks for my gestational diabetes, OH Boy!
As a gastric bypass patient we are advocates for our own care. I have done enough research and know how I respond to increased amount of sugars in 1 sitting in a short period of time I would end up hospitalized. So rather than having to do the glucose orange drink I am doing 2 weeks of 4 finger pricks a day. Or another alternative some doctors chose to use is to pull your a1c1 every 3 months from the start of your pregnancy. Let's just say I hate needles and this process and its stressing me out. I am terrified of the results, I am worried for of course B's health as well as she could end up with Diabetes later in life I have them during pregnancy and a week before all this we finally agreed to revamp our diets and get onto a clean eating for after she comes making shopping quicker, and easier for either parent to do!
My 26 week appointment to learn gestational diabetes involved a nutrition course and sadly all that was recommended to me to eat and how much was recommended to eat would never and could never fit in my tummy. And the scale climbed to 190lbs. I often have this mental mind game and battle because of the scale climbing. So at 27 weeks I am 190lbs and that puts me at a total weight gain for the pregnancy so far as 11lbs. I am hoping to stay under 25lbs as I did with A but we will see. Two nights ago I began doing 10 squats a night, 10 pelvic tilts and now I've added in 30 minutes of walking a night tonight, well it actually ended up being 15 minutes because it was 102 degrees. But I went .69 miles.
What the next week entails in our home for us is preparing for Aspen and I to fly to Colorado to visit some friends, attend a memorial service for my best friends mom and to enjoy some time away from the house. By time I return I'll be 30 weeks. So between gathering plane toys for Aspen, planning meals and shopping trips for September, and making sure all is done around the house it has been crazy. I am ready for the break, but sadly I do start my last 2 pre-reqs for nursing school on August 31st so my break will still involve being a Mommy and doing homework for Chemistry and A&P 2. But I know all of this chaos is worth it in the end!
See you again soon!
Krista xo
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